{"id":2896,"date":"2026-05-13T16:03:42","date_gmt":"2026-05-13T16:03:42","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/illyrianinfo.com\/?p=2896"},"modified":"2026-05-13T16:03:42","modified_gmt":"2026-05-13T16:03:42","slug":"gjerat-qe-prinderit-thone-rastesisht-mund-ti-lendojne-thelle-femijet","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/illyrianinfo.com\/?p=2896","title":{"rendered":"Gj\u00ebrat q\u00eb prind\u00ebrit thon\u00eb rast\u00ebsisht mund t\u2019i l\u00ebndojn\u00eb thell\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebt"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Krahasimet midis v\u00ebllez\u00ebrve dhe motrave jan\u00eb t\u00eb zakonshme n\u00eb shum\u00eb familje. Nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb “i zgjuar”, nj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr \u00ebsht\u00eb “i zgjuar” dhe t\u00eb tretit i thuhet “t\u00eb m\u00ebsoj\u00eb nga v\u00ebllai i tij” ose “t\u00eb jet\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb si motra e tij”. <\/strong><\/p>\n

Nd\u00ebrsa deklarata t\u00eb tilla mund t\u00eb ting\u00ebllojn\u00eb t\u00eb pafajshme ose motivuese p\u00ebr prind\u00ebrit, f\u00ebmij\u00ebt shpesh i perceptojn\u00eb ato si renditje dhe mesazhin se dashuria, v\u00ebmendja dhe miratimi varen nga sa “t\u00eb mir\u00eb” jan\u00eb ata.<\/p>\n\n

F\u00ebmij\u00ebt nuk lindin rival\u00eb, por mund t\u00eb b\u00ebhen t\u00eb till\u00eb kur t\u00eb rriturit i krahasojn\u00eb vazhdimisht. Prind\u00ebrit ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb mendojn\u00eb se kjo do ta inkurajoj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebn e tyre t\u00eb p\u00ebrmir\u00ebsohet, por shpesh kjo krijon nj\u00eb rivalitet. V\u00ebllai\/motra nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb nj\u00eb aleat, por nj\u00eb kujtes\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb metat e tyre. Nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb q\u00eb krahasohet vazhdimisht mund t\u00eb ndihet i pak\u00ebnaqur, nd\u00ebrsa nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb q\u00eb mbahet si model mund t\u00eb ndihet i presionuar p\u00ebr ta ruajtur at\u00eb rol.<\/p>\n

Nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb vet\u00ebm f\u00ebmija m\u00eb i dob\u00ebt q\u00eb vuan<\/strong><\/p>\n

Prandaj, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb q\u00eb vet\u00ebm f\u00ebmija “m\u00eb i dob\u00ebt” vuan nga krahasimet. Ai q\u00eb quhet “i mir\u00eb”, “i zgjuar” ose “i p\u00ebrgjegjsh\u00ebm” mund t\u00eb filloj\u00eb t\u00eb besoj\u00eb se vlen vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb suksesit dhe bindjes s\u00eb tij. Ai mund t\u00eb ket\u00eb frik\u00eb se mos b\u00ebn nj\u00eb gabim sepse kjo mund t\u00eb n\u00ebnkuptoj\u00eb humbjen e vendit t\u00eb tij t\u00eb ve\u00e7ant\u00eb n\u00eb familje. Nga ana tjet\u00ebr, nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb q\u00eb vazhdimisht e krahason veten me nj\u00eb v\u00eblla ose mot\u00ebr mund t\u00eb humbas\u00eb vet\u00ebbesimin dhe t\u00eb filloj\u00eb t\u00eb besoj\u00eb se \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb pak i aft\u00eb, m\u00eb pak i dashur ose gjithmon\u00eb n\u00eb vendin e dyt\u00eb.<\/p>\n

Krahasimi gjithashtu dob\u00ebson marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnien midis prindit dhe f\u00ebmij\u00ebs. N\u00eb vend q\u00eb t\u00eb ndihet i pranuar si individ, nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb mund t\u00eb ndiej\u00eb sikur po vler\u00ebsohet vazhdimisht. Kjo mund t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb q\u00eb ai t\u00eb mos flas\u00eb p\u00ebr ndjenjat e tij, t\u00eb fsheh\u00eb d\u00ebshtimet e tij dhe ta shoh\u00eb sht\u00ebpin\u00eb si nj\u00eb vend m\u00eb pak t\u00eb sigurt. Mesazhe t\u00eb tilla shpesh vazhdojn\u00eb edhe n\u00eb mosh\u00eb madhore, p\u00ebrmes pasiguris\u00eb, v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsis\u00eb n\u00eb pranimin e lavd\u00ebrimeve ose nj\u00eb ndjenje se vlera e tij duhet t\u00eb provohet vazhdimisht.<\/p>\n

F\u00ebmij\u00ebt kan\u00eb nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr inkurajim q\u00eb lidhet me ta<\/strong><\/p>\n

F\u00ebmij\u00ebt kan\u00eb nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr inkurajim q\u00eb ka t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb me ta, jo me krahasime me t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt. “V\u00ebrtet u p\u00ebrpoqe shum\u00eb p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb” \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb e sh\u00ebndetshme sesa “Pse nuk mund t\u00eb jesh si motra jote?” Kur prind\u00ebrit e njohin ve\u00e7antin\u00eb e secilit f\u00ebmij\u00eb, ata krijojn\u00eb hap\u00ebsir\u00eb p\u00ebr vet\u00ebbesim pa konkurrenc\u00eb. Ata u m\u00ebsojn\u00eb atyre se ndryshimet nuk jan\u00eb nj\u00eb arsye p\u00ebr t\u00eb konkurruar, por di\u00e7ka q\u00eb ia vlen t\u00eb kuptohet dhe respektohet. F\u00ebmij\u00ebt nuk d\u00ebgjojn\u00eb vet\u00ebm fjal\u00ebt e folura n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi; ata shpesh nd\u00ebrtojn\u00eb nj\u00eb imazh p\u00ebr veten rreth tyre. <\/p>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Krahasimet midis v\u00ebllez\u00ebrve dhe motrave jan\u00eb t\u00eb zakonshme n\u00eb shum\u00eb familje. Nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb “i zgjuar”, nj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr \u00ebsht\u00eb “i zgjuar” dhe t\u00eb tretit i thuhet “t\u00eb m\u00ebsoj\u00eb nga v\u00ebllai i tij” ose “t\u00eb jet\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb si motra e tij”. Nd\u00ebrsa deklarata t\u00eb tilla mund t\u00eb ting\u00ebllojn\u00eb t\u00eb pafajshme ose motivuese p\u00ebr prind\u00ebrit, f\u00ebmij\u00ebt […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":2897,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_bbp_topic_count":0,"_bbp_reply_count":0,"_bbp_total_topic_count":0,"_bbp_total_reply_count":0,"_bbp_voice_count":0,"_bbp_anonymous_reply_count":0,"_bbp_topic_count_hidden":0,"_bbp_reply_count_hidden":0,"_bbp_forum_subforum_count":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[15],"tags":[],"tmauthors":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-2896","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-world"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/illyrianinfo.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2896","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/illyrianinfo.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/illyrianinfo.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/illyrianinfo.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/illyrianinfo.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=2896"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/illyrianinfo.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2896\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/illyrianinfo.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/2897"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/illyrianinfo.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=2896"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/illyrianinfo.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=2896"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/illyrianinfo.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=2896"},{"taxonomy":"tmauthors","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/illyrianinfo.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftmauthors&post=2896"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}