{"id":3845,"date":"2026-05-20T00:18:44","date_gmt":"2026-05-20T00:18:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/illyrianinfo.com\/?p=3845"},"modified":"2026-05-20T00:18:44","modified_gmt":"2026-05-20T00:18:44","slug":"mos-i-shmangni-bisedat-e-merzitshme-studimi-zbulon-pse-mund-tju-bejne-mire","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/illyrianinfo.com\/?p=3845","title":{"rendered":"Mos i shmangni bisedat \u201ce m\u00ebrzitshme\u201d: Studimi zbulon pse mund t\u2019ju b\u00ebjn\u00eb mir\u00eb"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Hulumtimi tregon se njer\u00ebzit shpesh i n\u00ebnvler\u00ebsojn\u00eb bisedat e zakonshme, nd\u00ebrsa pik\u00ebrisht ato mund t\u00eb forcojn\u00eb ndjenj\u00ebn e lidhjes, t\u00eb ulin vetmin\u00eb dhe t\u00eb ndikojn\u00eb pozitivisht n\u00eb sh\u00ebndetin mendor<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00cbsht\u00eb josh\u00ebse t\u2019u shmangeni koleg\u00ebve pran\u00eb aparatit t\u00eb kafes\u00eb ose ta kufizoni bised\u00ebn e rastit me personin q\u00eb ulet pran\u00eb jush n\u00eb pritje te mjeku, vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr t\u00eb shmangur at\u00eb q\u00eb mendoni se do t\u00eb jet\u00eb nj\u00eb bised\u00eb e m\u00ebrzitshme.<\/p>\n\n

Megjithat\u00eb, nj\u00eb studim i ri jep arsye t\u00eb forta p\u00ebr t\u00eb mos i shmangur k\u00ebto biseda. Studimi, i publikuar n\u00eb revist\u00ebn \u201cJournal of Personality and Social Psychology\u201d, zbuloi se njer\u00ebzit q\u00eb mor\u00ebn pjes\u00eb n\u00eb biseda t\u00eb tilla i vler\u00ebsuan ato si shum\u00eb m\u00eb interesante dhe m\u00eb t\u00eb k\u00ebndshme sesa kishin pritur.<\/p>\n

P\u00ebr m\u00eb tep\u00ebr, t\u00eb dh\u00ebnat sugjerojn\u00eb se edhe bisedat q\u00eb n\u00eb fillim duken \u201ct\u00eb m\u00ebrzitshme\u201d mund t\u00eb ndikojn\u00eb mir\u00eb n\u00eb sh\u00ebndetin mendor dhe fizik.<\/p>\n

\u201cK\u00ebto \u00e7aste jan\u00eb t\u00eb vogla, por jo t\u00eb par\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme\u201d, thot\u00eb dr. Nicholas Allan, psikolog dhe profesor asistent n\u00eb Departamentin e Psikiatris\u00eb dhe Sh\u00ebndetit t\u00eb Sjelljes n\u00eb Wexner Medical Center t\u00eb Ohio State University.<\/p>\n

Temat q\u00eb njer\u00ebzit i konsiderojn\u00eb t\u00eb m\u00ebrzitshme<\/strong><\/p>\n

Hulumtimi u p\u00ebrqendrua n\u00eb n\u00ebnt\u00eb eksperimente, ku mor\u00ebn pjes\u00eb 1.800 persona. Gjat\u00eb eksperimenteve, pjes\u00ebmarr\u00ebsve iu k\u00ebrkua t\u00eb parashikonin sa do t\u00eb k\u00ebnaqeshin duke biseduar p\u00ebr tema q\u00eb i konsideronin t\u00eb m\u00ebrzitshme.<\/p>\n

K\u00ebto tema p\u00ebrfshinin Luft\u00ebn e Par\u00eb dhe t\u00eb Dyt\u00eb Bot\u00ebrore, librat publicistik\u00eb, matematik\u00ebn, burs\u00ebn, macet dhe ushqimin vegan.<\/p>\n

Bisedat u zhvilluan me t\u00eb panjohur ose me miq, drejtp\u00ebrdrejt ose n\u00eb internet. Studiuesit zbuluan se, megjith\u00ebse pjes\u00ebmarr\u00ebsit prisnin q\u00eb bisedat t\u00eb ishin mjaft t\u00eb m\u00ebrzitshme, m\u00eb pas deklaruan se kishin k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsi shum\u00eb m\u00eb tep\u00ebr sesa kishin menduar. Kjo ndodhte edhe kur t\u00eb dy personat n\u00eb bised\u00eb e konsideronin tem\u00ebn t\u00eb m\u00ebrzitshme.<\/p>\n

\u201cVendos\u00ebm ta zhvillonim k\u00ebt\u00eb studim sepse shum\u00eb njer\u00ebz shmangin bisedat p\u00ebr t\u00eb cilat mendojn\u00eb se do t\u00eb jen\u00eb t\u00eb m\u00ebrzitshme. I anulojm\u00eb bisedat e rastit, u druhemi pritjeve dhe ngjarjeve t\u00eb ngjashme dhe supozojm\u00eb se disa tema, si moti, rruga p\u00ebr n\u00eb pun\u00eb ose rutina e p\u00ebrditshme, thjesht nuk do t\u00eb jen\u00eb interesante\u201d, thot\u00eb Elizabeth Trinh, autorja kryesore e studimit dhe doktorante n\u00eb University of Michigan, transmeton Telegrafi.<\/p>\n

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P\u00ebrfshirja n\u00eb bised\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme se tema<\/strong><\/p>\n

Studiuesit zbuluan se ajo q\u00eb ka v\u00ebrtet r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi \u00ebsht\u00eb p\u00ebrfshirja n\u00eb bised\u00eb.<\/p>\n

\u201cAngazhimi nxit k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsin\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb sesa vet\u00eb tema. Njer\u00ebzit supozojn\u00eb se interesi vjen nga nj\u00eb tem\u00eb magjeps\u00ebse, por n\u00eb realitet, ajo q\u00eb i b\u00ebn bisedat t\u00eb k\u00ebndshme \u00ebsht\u00eb ndjenja e lidhjes, ndjenja se jeni d\u00ebgjuar, shk\u00ebmbimi i pyetjeve dhe zbulimi i detajeve t\u00eb papritura nga jeta e dikujt. Edhe nj\u00eb tem\u00eb e zakonshme mund t\u00eb b\u00ebhet dometh\u00ebn\u00ebse kur dy njer\u00ebz p\u00ebrfshihen aktivisht\u201d, thot\u00eb Trinh.<\/p>\n

Sipas dr. Aron P. Brinen, profesor asistent i psikiatris\u00eb dhe shkencave t\u00eb sjelljes n\u00eb Vanderbilt University Medical Center, njer\u00ebzit jan\u00eb qenie shoq\u00ebrore nga natyra dhe lidhja rreth nj\u00eb teme q\u00eb duket e m\u00ebrzitshme, si ushqimi vegan, mbetet megjithat\u00eb nj\u00eb lidhje shoq\u00ebrore.<\/p>\n

Thea Gallagher, profesoresh\u00eb e asociuar e psikologjis\u00eb n\u00eb NYU Langone Health, shton se njer\u00ebzit ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb parashikojn\u00eb se nj\u00eb bised\u00eb do t\u00eb jet\u00eb e pak\u00ebndshme ose e sikletshme, por n\u00ebse p\u00ebrpiqen t\u00eb lidhen me tjetrin gjat\u00eb bised\u00ebs, kjo mund t\u2019u sjell\u00eb p\u00ebrfitime t\u00eb m\u00ebdha.<\/p>\n

Prandaj, ajo i inkurajon edhe pacient\u00ebt e saj t\u00eb bisedojn\u00eb kudo q\u00eb shkojn\u00eb.<\/p>\n

\u201cT\u00eb jesh nx\u00ebn\u00ebs gjat\u00eb gjith\u00eb jet\u00ebs mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb shum\u00eb e fuqishme. N\u00eb fund t\u00eb fundit, vet\u00ebm lidhja me njer\u00ebzit mund t\u00eb na jap\u00eb nj\u00eb ndjenj\u00eb shum\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb\u201d, thot\u00eb dr. Gallagher.<\/p>\n

Ndikim i madh n\u00eb sh\u00ebndet<\/strong><\/p>\n

Edhe pse bisedat e tilla mund t\u00eb duken t\u00eb kota, ekspert\u00ebt theksojn\u00eb se n\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb nuk jan\u00eb t\u00eb tilla. Jo vet\u00ebm q\u00eb ka gjasa t\u00eb zbuloni se k\u00ebnaqeni m\u00eb shum\u00eb sesa prisnit, por kjo mund t\u2019ju ndihmoj\u00eb t\u00eb mos ndiheni t\u00eb vetmuar.<\/p>\n

\u201cVetmia nuk ka t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb vet\u00ebm me numrin e njer\u00ebzve q\u00eb dikush sheh. Ka t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb me at\u00eb n\u00ebse nd\u00ebrveprimet ndihen lidh\u00ebse dhe dometh\u00ebn\u00ebse. Shmangia e nj\u00eb bisede t\u00eb m\u00ebrzitshme ka t\u00eb ngjar\u00eb ta rris\u00eb ndjenj\u00ebn e vetmis\u00eb. Edhe n\u00ebse nuk d\u00ebshironit t\u00eb ishit pjes\u00eb e asaj bisede, s\u00ebrish mbeteni t\u00eb vetmuar\u201d, thot\u00eb dr. Brinen.<\/p>\n

Vetmia, n\u00eb vetvete, \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb ndjenj\u00eb shum\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00eb dhe mund t\u00eb ndikoj\u00eb ndjesh\u00ebm n\u00eb sh\u00ebndet. Ndjenja e vetmis\u00eb ose izolimi shoq\u00ebror rrit rrezikun p\u00ebr nj\u00eb s\u00ebr\u00eb gjendjesh serioze sh\u00ebndet\u00ebsore, p\u00ebrfshir\u00eb s\u00ebmundjet e zemr\u00ebs, goditjen n\u00eb tru, diabetin e tipit 2, depresionin, ankthin, demenc\u00ebn dhe vdekjen e parakohshme.<\/p>\n

\u201cKur gjejm\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb angazhohemi me njer\u00ebzit e tjer\u00eb, kjo plot\u00ebson nevoj\u00ebn ton\u00eb p\u00ebr lidhje me t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt\u201d, shpjegon dr. Brinen.<\/p>\n

Me kalimin e koh\u00ebs, k\u00ebto \u00e7aste t\u00eb vogla dhe n\u00eb dukje \u201ct\u00eb m\u00ebrzitshme\u201d mund t\u00eb lidhen me nj\u00ebra-tjetr\u00ebn, duke ulur ndjenj\u00ebn e vetmis\u00eb dhe rreziqet q\u00eb ajo sjell, thot\u00eb dr. Allan.<\/p>\n

Megjithat\u00eb, ai paralajm\u00ebron se jo \u00e7do kontakt shoq\u00ebror \u00ebsht\u00eb i dobish\u00ebm.<\/p>\n

\u201cM\u00eb shum\u00eb kontakte nuk do t\u00eb thot\u00eb automatikisht m\u00eb mir\u00eb. Duket se m\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00ebse nd\u00ebrveprimi ndihet me respekt, i nd\u00ebrsjell\u00eb dhe emocionalisht i sigurt. Lidhja pozitive ndihmon, nd\u00ebrsa nd\u00ebrveprimet rraskapit\u00ebse ose armiq\u00ebsore nuk ndihmojn\u00eb\u201d, p\u00ebrfundon dr. Allan. \/Telegrafi\/<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Hulumtimi tregon se njer\u00ebzit shpesh i n\u00ebnvler\u00ebsojn\u00eb bisedat e zakonshme, nd\u00ebrsa pik\u00ebrisht ato mund t\u00eb forcojn\u00eb ndjenj\u00ebn e lidhjes, t\u00eb ulin vetmin\u00eb dhe t\u00eb ndikojn\u00eb pozitivisht n\u00eb sh\u00ebndetin mendor \u00cbsht\u00eb josh\u00ebse t\u2019u shmangeni koleg\u00ebve pran\u00eb aparatit t\u00eb kafes\u00eb ose ta kufizoni bised\u00ebn e rastit me personin q\u00eb ulet pran\u00eb jush n\u00eb pritje te mjeku, vet\u00ebm […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":3846,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_bbp_topic_count":0,"_bbp_reply_count":0,"_bbp_total_topic_count":0,"_bbp_total_reply_count":0,"_bbp_voice_count":0,"_bbp_anonymous_reply_count":0,"_bbp_topic_count_hidden":0,"_bbp_reply_count_hidden":0,"_bbp_forum_subforum_count":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[15],"tags":[],"tmauthors":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-3845","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-world"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/illyrianinfo.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3845","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/illyrianinfo.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/illyrianinfo.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/illyrianinfo.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/illyrianinfo.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=3845"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/illyrianinfo.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3845\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/illyrianinfo.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/3846"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/illyrianinfo.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=3845"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/illyrianinfo.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=3845"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/illyrianinfo.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=3845"},{"taxonomy":"tmauthors","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/illyrianinfo.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftmauthors&post=3845"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}