{"id":4946,"date":"2026-05-26T21:12:33","date_gmt":"2026-05-26T21:12:33","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/illyrianinfo.com\/?p=4946"},"modified":"2026-05-26T21:12:33","modified_gmt":"2026-05-26T21:12:33","slug":"carl-jung-paralajmeronte-baballaret-qe-sillen-keshtu-mund-ta-lendojne-vajzen-per-gjithe-jeten","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/illyrianinfo.com\/?p=4946","title":{"rendered":"Carl Jung paralajm\u00ebronte: Baballar\u00ebt q\u00eb sillen k\u00ebshtu mund ta l\u00ebndojn\u00eb vajz\u00ebn p\u00ebr gjith\u00eb jet\u00ebn"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Psikologu i famsh\u00ebm besonte se marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnia me baban\u00eb ndikon thell\u00eb n\u00eb vet\u00ebvler\u00ebsimin, m\u00ebnyr\u00ebn si nj\u00eb grua dashuron dhe zgjedh partner\u00ebt, nd\u00ebrsa ftoht\u00ebsia emocionale mund t\u00eb l\u00ebr\u00eb pasoja t\u00eb gjata<\/strong><\/p>\n

Marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnia midis babait dhe vajz\u00ebs \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb nga lidhjet m\u00eb t\u00eb thella dhe m\u00eb t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme n\u00eb jet\u00ebn e nj\u00eb gruaje. M\u00ebnyra se si babai e sheh, flet me t\u00eb, i shpreh dashurin\u00eb ose ia mohon at\u00eb, shpesh l\u00eb gjurm\u00eb q\u00eb vajza i bart shum\u00eb m\u00eb gjat\u00eb sesa shoq\u00ebria d\u00ebshiron ta pranoj\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n

Pik\u00ebrisht p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb fliste Carl Jung p\u00ebrmes teoris\u00eb s\u00eb tij mbi kompleksin at\u00ebror dhe marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnien midis prindit dhe f\u00ebmij\u00ebs. Jung besonte se babai ka nj\u00eb ndikim jasht\u00ebzakonisht t\u00eb madh n\u00eb zhvillimin psikologjik t\u00eb vajz\u00ebs, aq t\u00eb madh sa mund t\u00eb form\u00ebsoj\u00eb ndjenj\u00ebn e saj t\u00eb vet\u00ebvler\u00ebsimit, m\u00ebnyr\u00ebn si dashuron, zgjedh partner\u00ebt dhe e sheh veten.<\/p>\n

Kur babai \u00ebsht\u00eb i but\u00eb, i pranish\u00ebm dhe emocionalisht i q\u00ebndruesh\u00ebm, vajza shpesh rritet n\u00eb nj\u00eb grua t\u00eb sigurt, q\u00eb beson se meriton dashuri dhe respekt. Por kur ai \u00ebsht\u00eb i ftoht\u00eb, kritikues, i dhunsh\u00ebm, posht\u00ebrues ose emocionalisht i paarritsh\u00ebm, pasojat mund ta ndjekin f\u00ebmij\u00ebn gjat\u00eb gjith\u00eb jet\u00ebs.<\/p>\n

Nj\u00eb nga citatet m\u00eb t\u00eb njohura t\u00eb Jungut flet pik\u00ebrisht p\u00ebr forc\u00ebn e figur\u00ebs at\u00ebrore: \u201c\u00c7do babai i \u00ebsht\u00eb dh\u00ebn\u00eb mund\u00ebsia ta prish\u00eb natyr\u00ebn e vajz\u00ebs s\u00eb tij.\u201d<\/p>\n

Edhe pse kjo fjali \u00ebsht\u00eb e shkurt\u00ebr, kuptimi i saj \u00ebsht\u00eb i thell\u00eb. Jung nuk thoshte se \u00e7do baba do ta l\u00ebndoj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebn e vet, por se fuqia at\u00ebrore mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb edhe sh\u00ebruese, edhe shkat\u00ebrruese. F\u00ebmija, p\u00ebrmes babait, shpesh m\u00ebson p\u00ebr her\u00eb t\u00eb par\u00eb \u00e7far\u00eb do t\u00eb thot\u00eb t\u00eb jesh i dashur, i pranuar dhe i vler\u00ebsuar. N\u00ebse n\u00eb vend t\u00eb k\u00ebsaj merr kritik\u00eb, refuzim ose frik\u00eb, plaga mbetet thell\u00eb e gdhendur, transmeton Telegrafi.<\/p>\n

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Vajzat shpesh e bartin gjith\u00eb jet\u00ebn marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnien me baban\u00eb<\/strong><\/p>\n

Jung besonte se f\u00ebmij\u00ebria nuk mbetet pas nesh; ajo vazhdon t\u00eb jetoj\u00eb brenda nesh dhe m\u00eb von\u00eb shfaqet p\u00ebrmes marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieve, emocioneve dhe modeleve t\u00eb sjelljes.<\/p>\n

Nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb rritur me nj\u00eb baba q\u00eb kritikonte vazhdimisht pamjen, emocionet ose suksesin e saj mund t\u00eb zhvilloj\u00eb m\u00eb von\u00eb ndjenj\u00ebn se nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb kurr\u00eb mjaftuesh\u00ebm e mir\u00eb. Disa gra, p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb k\u00ebsaj, kalojn\u00eb jet\u00ebn duke u p\u00ebrpjekur t\u00eb fitojn\u00eb dashuri, nd\u00ebrsa t\u00eb tjera zgjedhin partner\u00eb emocionalisht t\u00eb paarritsh\u00ebm, sepse nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie e till\u00eb u duket e njohur q\u00eb nga f\u00ebmij\u00ebria.<\/p>\n

Ai paralajm\u00ebronte ve\u00e7an\u00ebrisht p\u00ebr prind\u00ebrit q\u00eb ua transmetojn\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve frustrimet dhe \u00ebndrrat e parealizuara. Nj\u00eb nga mendimet e tij m\u00eb t\u00eb cituara edhe sot \u00ebsht\u00eb:<\/p>\n

\u201cAsgj\u00eb nuk ka ndikim m\u00eb t\u00eb fort\u00eb psikologjik mbi f\u00ebmij\u00ebt sesa jeta e pap\u00ebrmbushur e prind\u00ebrve t\u00eb tyre.\u201d<\/p>\n

Me fjal\u00eb t\u00eb tjera, prindi q\u00eb nuk ka zgjidhur traumat, zem\u00ebrimin, pak\u00ebnaq\u00ebsin\u00eb ose konfliktet e veta t\u00eb brendshme, shum\u00eb shpesh ia transmeton ato f\u00ebmij\u00ebs pa vet\u00ebdije.<\/p>\n

Babai q\u00eb nuk ka m\u00ebsuar kurr\u00eb t\u00eb shpreh\u00eb emocione mund t\u00eb rris\u00eb nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb q\u00eb beson se dashuria duhet t\u00eb dhemb\u00eb ose se p\u00ebr v\u00ebmendje duhet luftuar. Babai q\u00eb posht\u00ebron, kontrollon ose n\u00ebn\u00e7mon vazhdimisht f\u00ebmij\u00ebn mund t\u00eb krijoj\u00eb nj\u00eb person q\u00eb m\u00eb von\u00eb dyshon n\u00eb \u00e7do vendim t\u00eb vetin.<\/p>\n

Babai i ftoht\u00eb l\u00eb pasoja t\u00eb thella<\/strong><\/p>\n

Jung nuk fliste vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr baballar\u00ebt hapur t\u00eb dhunsh\u00ebm. Ai besonte se edhe ftoht\u00ebsia emocionale mund t\u00eb l\u00ebr\u00eb pasoja serioze.<\/p>\n

Shum\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb jan\u00eb rritur n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi ku \u201cgjith\u00e7ka dukej normale\u201d, por dashuria mungonte. Babai ishte fizikisht i pranish\u00ebm, por emocionalisht i larg\u00ebt. Nuk pyeste si ndihej f\u00ebmija, nuk tregonte but\u00ebsi dhe nuk jepte mb\u00ebshtetje.<\/p>\n

Vajza t\u00eb tilla shpesh rriten me ndjenj\u00ebn se duhet t\u00eb jen\u00eb perfekte p\u00ebr ta merituar v\u00ebmendjen. Disa b\u00ebhen tep\u00ebr t\u00eb forta dhe t\u00eb pavarura, sepse q\u00eb her\u00ebt kan\u00eb m\u00ebsuar se nuk mund t\u00eb mb\u00ebshteten tek askush. T\u00eb tjera mbeten gjith\u00eb jet\u00ebn t\u00eb uritura p\u00ebr dashuri dhe miratim.<\/p>\n

N\u00eb interpretimet e vepr\u00ebs s\u00eb Jungut shpesh thuhet se nj\u00eb baba i ftoht\u00eb ose i munguar mund t\u00eb krijoj\u00eb te vajza nj\u00eb ndjenj\u00eb t\u00eb thell\u00eb pasigurie emocionale dhe frike nga refuzimi.<\/p>\n

\u201cDerisa e pavet\u00ebdijshmja t\u00eb b\u00ebhet e vet\u00ebdijshme\u2026\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n

Nj\u00eb nga th\u00ebniet m\u00eb t\u00eb njohura t\u00eb Jungut sot lidhet shpesh pik\u00ebrisht me traumat e f\u00ebmij\u00ebris\u00eb:<\/p>\n

\u201cDerisa ta b\u00ebni t\u00eb vet\u00ebdijshme t\u00eb pavet\u00ebdijshmen, ajo do ta drejtoj\u00eb jet\u00ebn tuaj, nd\u00ebrsa ju do ta quani fat.\u201d<\/p>\n

Jung besonte se shum\u00eb njer\u00ebz i p\u00ebrs\u00ebrisin t\u00eb nj\u00ebjtat modele emocionale gjat\u00eb gjith\u00eb jet\u00ebs pik\u00ebrisht sepse nuk jan\u00eb p\u00ebrballur kurr\u00eb me plag\u00ebt e krijuara n\u00eb familje.<\/p>\n

Vajza q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb rritur me nj\u00eb baba t\u00eb ftoht\u00eb ose agresiv mund t\u00eb mendoj\u00eb m\u00eb von\u00eb se \u00ebsht\u00eb \u201ce d\u00ebnuar\u201d p\u00ebr marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie t\u00eb k\u00ebqija, por Jung besonte se njeriu nuk mbetet p\u00ebrgjithmon\u00eb i burgosur n\u00eb t\u00eb kaluar\u00ebn e vet. Hapi i par\u00eb drejt ndryshimit, thoshte ai, \u00ebsht\u00eb kuptimi i plag\u00ebs personale.<\/p>\n

Plaga nuk zhduket vetvetiu<\/strong><\/p>\n

Edhe pse Jung shkroi shum\u00eb p\u00ebr dhimbjen q\u00eb prind\u00ebrit mund t\u2019u shkaktojn\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve, ai nuk besonte se njeriu duhet t\u00eb mbetet p\u00ebrgjithmon\u00eb viktim\u00eb e f\u00ebmij\u00ebris\u00eb s\u00eb vet.<\/p>\n

Ai mendonte se p\u00ebrballja me t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00ebn, pranimi i emocioneve personale dhe kuptimi i marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieve me prind\u00ebrit mund ta ndihmojn\u00eb njeriun t\u2019i nd\u00ebrpres\u00eb modelet shkat\u00ebrruese.<\/p>\n

Sepse f\u00ebmija q\u00eb dikur \u00ebsht\u00eb l\u00ebnduar nuk mbetet p\u00ebrgjithmon\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb, por plaga q\u00eb nuk pati mund\u00ebsi t\u00eb sh\u00ebrohej shpesh vazhdon t\u00eb flas\u00eb p\u00ebrmes t\u00eb rriturit. \/Telegrafi\/<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Psikologu i famsh\u00ebm besonte se marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnia me baban\u00eb ndikon thell\u00eb n\u00eb vet\u00ebvler\u00ebsimin, m\u00ebnyr\u00ebn si nj\u00eb grua dashuron dhe zgjedh partner\u00ebt, nd\u00ebrsa ftoht\u00ebsia emocionale mund t\u00eb l\u00ebr\u00eb pasoja t\u00eb gjata Marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnia midis babait dhe vajz\u00ebs \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb nga lidhjet m\u00eb t\u00eb thella dhe m\u00eb t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme n\u00eb jet\u00ebn e nj\u00eb gruaje. M\u00ebnyra se si babai e […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":4947,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_bbp_topic_count":0,"_bbp_reply_count":0,"_bbp_total_topic_count":0,"_bbp_total_reply_count":0,"_bbp_voice_count":0,"_bbp_anonymous_reply_count":0,"_bbp_topic_count_hidden":0,"_bbp_reply_count_hidden":0,"_bbp_forum_subforum_count":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[15],"tags":[],"tmauthors":[],"class_list":["post-4946","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-world"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/illyrianinfo.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4946","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/illyrianinfo.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/illyrianinfo.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/illyrianinfo.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/illyrianinfo.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=4946"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/illyrianinfo.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4946\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/illyrianinfo.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/4947"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/illyrianinfo.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=4946"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/illyrianinfo.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=4946"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/illyrianinfo.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=4946"},{"taxonomy":"tmauthors","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/illyrianinfo.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftmauthors&post=4946"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}